For many children (and let’s face it, some adults too), the idea of going to the dentist can feel a little scary. New environments, unfamiliar sounds, and the thought of someone peeking inside their mouth can all contribute to anxiety. But here’s the good news how you, as a parent, talk to your child before a dental visit can make all the difference
In this blog, we’ll walk you through how to talk positively about oral care, what words to avoid, and how to support your child if they feel overwhelmed
A child’s first experience with brushing or visiting the dentist can shape how they feel about oral care for life. What you say as a parent plays a big role in building their comfort and confidence it’s not just about one visit, but creating healthy habits that last
When Should the first Visit Be?
The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry recommends that a child’s first dental visit should happen by their first birthday, or within 6 months of their first tooth coming in whichever comes first.
Even though it may seem early, this first visit is a great way to help your child feel comfortable at the dentist and start good oral habits early.
How to Talk to Your Child About Their First Visit?
- Keep It Simple and Positive
- “We’re going to visit the dentist! They help keep your teeth clean and strong.”
- Avoid scary or negative words like “hurt” or “pain,” even if you’re saying “it won’t hurt.”
- Explain What Will Happen (Briefly)
- “The dentist will count your teeth and look at them with a little mirror. They might use a tiny brush to clean them.”
- Use comparisons they understand: “The chair moves up and down like a ride!”
- Offer Reassurance
- “I’ll be right there with you the whole time.”
- Knowing you’ll stay close can ease their nerves.
- Make It Sound Fun
- “You get to meet the tooth doctor today! They have shiny tools and fun stickers.”
- Build excitement rather than worry.
- Talk About the Dentist Like a Friend
- “The dentist is really nice and loves helping kids take care of their smiles!”
- If you have photos of the office or dentist, show them ahead of time.
Bonus Tips For Parents
- Play pretend dentist at home with a toothbrush and a stuffed animal
- Read books or watch shows about going to the dentist (e.g. Daniel Tiger, Peppa Pig, or The Berenstain Bears)
- Pick a good time of day when your child is well-rested and not hungry
Kids learn best through play. Adding a short role-play activity where parents and kids can "pretend" to visit the dentist at home can turn anxiety into curiosity
A Note For Parents
Children are very sensitive to your mood and energy, so try to stay calm and upbeat—even if you’re feeling nervous about the visit. If you’ve had negative dental experiences yourself, do your best not to share those stories. Instead, focus on making this a fun, normal part of keeping healthy—just like visiting the pediatrician or brushing their teeth at home. Your positive attitude can help your child build a lifelong sense of confidence about dental care
